Have several questions sent in this week from your fellow streamers. You too can have your question answered next Monday. Just send me a PM with your question, serious, semi-serious or not serious at all.Okay, let's get started.
QUESTION 1- Dear Belle:
I have been on Blogstream for a few months now and nobody comes to my blog. I am ready to give up. Plus I don't really know what to blog about.
First of all, DON'T GIVE UP. It takes time. I would suggest that you visit other blogs and make comments. Most bloggers return the favor and visit yours.
Second, Have fun. Write about anything you like. We have all kinds of blogs here on the stream,that cover everything. Just be true to yourself and write about things you care about and you will develop a following.
QUESTION 2-Dear Belle:
I am a stay at home mom with small children. Every once in a while I just need a break but feel guilty about it.
BEEN THERE. DONE THAT. First of all, one of the best things you can do for your children, is to give them a happy mother. Everyone needs time to recharge their batteries, and that certainly does not exclude mothers. There is NOTHING in the world wrong with making, and taking some, ME time.
You didn't say if you were married or had a significant other. If you do, it would help a lot to get him on board with the idea, as well as grandparents.
My daughter has her hands full with small children, a house and home based business to take care of, and I like to help out whenever I can and give her a break.
Most of all, and I can't stress this enough, DO NOT GIVE IN TO GUILT.
QUESTION 3-Dear Belle:
I have a public restroom question for Monday. This has been bothering me for months. Eight stalls... someone's sitting in the one farthest from the door... another person comes in and uses the one right next to them, even though every other stall is empty! What's up with that? Wouldn't they want some privacy? It creeps me out beyond belief.
I know where you are coming from on this one. I thought everyone was hip to the "BATHROOM BUFFER ZONE",rule,when other stalls were empty.
It could be that some people just don't think, and grab the first one they see available. Or some people may suffer from separation anxiety and need to be close to others.
You could try making them uncomfortable and start humming or giving yourself a Potty Pep Talk, or tap dance in place....or fill a water pistol with lotion and squirt it under the stall....LOL
Another solution would be to carry an out of order sign, and hang it on the stall next to you and create your own buffer zone.
QUESTION 4: Dear Belle:
My husband wants to have sex ALL THE TIME. Sometimes I am just not in the mood and he gets mad.
It isn't uncommon for couples to be unequally matched in the sexual desire category. Some want it more often than others. In a perfect world, both would be on the same page as far as frequency, but, it doesn't always happen that way.
I would suggest you talk to your partner about this. Maybe there are times when he is in the mood and you aren't, you could just cuddle, kiss and talk. Just be kind about it, and assure him he is not being rejected.
Times when you are in the mood, you might try to make the first move instead of waiting for him to do it.
QUESTION 5: Dear Belle:
How do you know when you have meet "the one".
All I can tell you about that, from personal experience, is, YOU WILL JUST KNOW.
No one will have to tell you, you won't have to ask anyone.....YOU WILL KNOW. And, if you aren't sure, and have doubts, then you haven't meet, "the one".
QUESTION 6;Dear Belle:
Do you think people can communicate with one another without words?
I SURE DO! People do that all the time with a look or body language. Some people, you just share a mental connection with and know what they are thinking.
For example: The second time I laid eyes on The Yankee, he walked me out to my car. I just stood there, waiting...wanting for him to kiss me.
Looking into his eyes, I knew what he was telling me without using any words at all. I got his message loud and clear, which was:
"I know you want me to kiss you, but, I'm not going to. Not now. I want you to think about and anticipate it."
I shocked the Yankee socks right off of him a couple of days later, when I relayed verbally the mental message he had sent me.
THAT IS IT FOR THIS WEEKS, DEAR BELLE. TUNE IN NEXT WEEK AND KEEP THOSE QUESTIONS COMING.
Going through a mountain of books over the weekend, I came across some by one of my favorite writers, the late (AND STILL MISSED), Lewis Grizzard. Enjoy some quotes and witty saying by a beloved son of the south.
ON BBQ:
"In North Carolina, they put cole slaw on barbecue. In Georgia, they'll cut you for doing that." (You'll get the same treatment in Alabama-BELLE )
ON MARRIAGE:
I don't think I'll get married again. I'll just find a woman I don't like and give her a house.”
“It's great for the first two weeks.”
“I grew up in a very large family in a very small house. I never slept alone until after I was married.”
ON LIFE:
“It's difficult to think anything but pleasant thoughts while eating a homegrown tomato.”
“If you ain't the lead dog, the scenery never changes”
ON SEX:
“Sex hasn't been the same since women started enjoying it.”
ON WOMEN:
“When My Love Comes Back from the Ladies' Room, Will I Be Too Old To Care?”
ON COCA-COLA
“The only way that I could figure they could improve upon Coca-Cola, one of life's most delightful elixirs, which studies prove will heal the sick and occasionally raise the dead, is to put rum or bourbon in it.”
ON HIS MAMA
“She [mama] had an appreciation of the language. She taught me a love of words, of how they should be used and how they can fill a creative soul with a passion and lead to a life's work.”
QUOTE OF THE DAY:
"Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow, it only empties today of it's strength." Corrie Ten Boom "
Later Ya'll...
